THE FEMININE MEN (1)

It has been about a week, ever since I decided to write on this, I have however been lazy about it. Well, finally I am doing this. These article looks different to me for some reasons, the first being it would be my first multi-visual article, and also this article might sound like I am a chauvinist, but on the contrary I am actually a feminist *laughs*, and I intend to get some burden of the neck of Our mothers and The Future mothers, and also let our Fathers know some bitter truth and also give the Future Fathers something to Ponder upon. Ok, Let’s do this.

There has been some usual recurring, disturbing trend in our generation and the generation before us. The men were raised, learnt virtues or otherwise from their mothers, a lot of men are closer to the mother than to the father, A lot of times the father seem lost in the scheme of things when raising the Male child. The trend gives birth to a string of activities whereby a lot of the men becomes tied to the Mother’s apron strings, leads to a tussle for his attention between the Mother and his Wife, and the War starts. Where is the Man, Dad and Father in the scene of the Movie? NON-EXISTENT!!!

You would argue less that we are running a Fatherless generation, where the Father only believe the duty of the Mother is to raise the kids, while they watch from the Sidelines, for the sake of this article I would focus only on the Male Child. The reason why it seems some Men cannot do without the Mother, even when married could be blamed on the failure of the Father to play his Fatherly role in the Life of that Male Child.

                                           

Using the Words of Bishop Felix Adejumo, The Dad must raise the Boy together with the Mother; else the Son would have a problem. When Sons are growing up, Their Root of Masculinity should be from the Father and not the Mom as the case has always been. What you look at is what you look like!! The case is now so worse that Women are gradually taking over the running of the Home, becoming Bread winners, the Men are growing comfortable with the Women taking over their Heavenly appointed duties, and Men beat wives without remorse anymore, why? Their Source of Masculinity failed to Lead them right, and they had to learn elsewhere. A son gains validation elsewhere when the father fails.

When was the last time, a Father took or sought out his Son, told him a lot about his pasts, where he made mistakes and what life really looks like? Frankly speaking, a lot of mistakes young men make today, their Father also made same, but what could have been avoided became inevitable, because the father failed his duties. 

A Father should be very vulnerable when talking to his male kid(s),  let them also know you make mistakes, don’t act all SUPER-MAN, let him smell you, you should be his role-model, every Dad must call the boy out of the mother’s emotional control.

I would like to stop this first part here, A parting shot would go this way, our mothers have enough troubles raising the Female Children, who are a more complex specie to train, don’t over-burden the Women.